"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change" (Carl Rogers).
"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" (Wayne Dyer). "We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them" (Albert Einstein).
When we try to find ways to feel better all by ourselves, we tend to engage in the same ways of thinking that have caused us the problems in the first place. Our thoughts and feelings go around in circles. We end up getting anxious about being anxious, depressed about being depressed, obsessed about being obsessed, critical about being critical, and so on. Additionally, we do not see our own blindspots in our thinking and what we do; are not always as rationale as we would like to think we are; can be cut off from parts of ourself that then seek expression in often unhelpful ways; not have as much compassion for ourselves as we might have for others; cannot find something that gives us meaning; and find it difficult to manage and/or accept change in our lives. Therefore, it is important to have a therapist who can guide you through difficult thoughts and feelings; gently challenge you where it might be helpful; hold your hope for you when you find it too difficult to hold it yourself; encourage you to develop compassion for yourself as well as those around you, and to develop a practice of gratitude, especially when life is tough; support you in developing a narrative of yourself that includes resilence; help you find new perspectives through reframing what is happening and/or happened; and when there is nothing that can be changed... help you practice acceptance.